Born Again NagSaturday, July 17, 2010 Comments (1)
By Angie Sanich
Have you ever been driving along and looked over at the car next to you and witnessed a couple riding together, the man both hands on the wheel at 10 & 2, looking straight forward, not seeing a word mouthed from his lips and the woman sitting next to him just going to town on whatever she is talking about and it appears that she could just be nagging, nagging, nagging, maybe not…but that is what I think about when I see those scenarios. I vowed to myself that I never wanted to be “that wife, the nag”. How sad it is for those men to just have to listen or at least pretend to be listening to a wife just going on and on about complaints, how bad her day had been, what he didn’t get done for her, or how they just can’t afford anything. Do we as wives think that does anything to strengthen or grow our marriages? Well, you may not be a “nag” but there may be ways in how you communicate with your husband that show disrespect to him.
Christian and I have been married 11 years and a few years ago we attended a Love & Respect conference here in the valley. This was a big turning point in our marriage when I learned about respect and I worked on changing my behavior.
What does it mean to Love and Respect? Dr. Emerson Eggerich, author of Love and Respect says, “We believe love best motivates a woman and respect most powerfully motivates a man. Research reveals that during marital conflict a husband most often reacts when feeling disrespected and a wife reacts when feeling unloved.”
As I drive down the road these days, it isn’t always Christian that is hearing my words but my two little boys that are learning how to love and respect one another as I hope to model and not be that nagging mother or wife.
Comments:Thank youPosted on: Monday, July 19, 2010 by BoI just want to thank you, Angie and Christian, for not being afraid to tell us about your opportunities for growth! I, for one, truly appreciate your human-ness and your open-ness! 1Peter 3:1 is some tough stuff to teach, but you did a phenominal and biblical greatness! It was very thought provoking and convicting. I do my best daily to live out 1Peter 3:1...and you know why. Sometimes I succeed w/ God's help; and sometimes I fail, but have God's grace. I love this verse, I live this verse and I'm not afraid or ashamed of the verbage in it. Thank you again Angie for your "nagging example" and Christian for your teaching 1Peter 3:1 and not being afraid to take on the tough stuff!! Log in to leave your own comments.
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